Holly Franklin asked:


Dildos are a little daunting when you first get them out of their packaging. Most companies don’t give you a manual on how to use the sex toy you have just bought. They just presume that you know where to “stick it”. This is unfortunate because unless you know what you are doing you cannot feel the true benefit of owning a sex toy.

As a result I have decided to put together a guide here to help those who are approaching dildo use without much experience. It is not a step by step guide but will point you in the right direction.

1. Lubrication

Unlike a penis a dildo doesn’t produce it’s on lubricant so girls it very important to lubricate up. It is a common fallacy that a woman own natural lubricant will suffice, in fact quite often many materials of penetrative toys actually can absorb the women lubricant. Whenever a woman is using a penetrative toy it is vital that she uses a lot of lubricant. Remember most materials don’t slide easily and if not properly lubricated can lead to unpleasant friction that may need to nasty soreness that can last for several days.

2. In the Mood For Love

You will feel discomfort if you try to use a sex toy before being suitably aroused. Take your time with the toy and work your way to arousal through stimulation of other erogenous zones. If you have a vibrating dildo for example; gently caress you clitoris using a gentle buzz setting to get yourself excited if not use your hands. You would’t want a lover to jump right in and the same approach has to be applied to dildo use.

3. Take it easy

The first penetration should be taken very slowly and with deep breaths. Taking these long breaths allows blood to rush to the genitals that help them to engorge and relax. If you take short breaths or hold your breath it stops all of this taking place resulting tightness and tenderness.

Once the dildo is inserted I would suggest leaving it in there for a moment to allow the body to get used to the feel of it and give the time for the body to relax properly. Remember you don’t have to insert the entire dildo in (do what feels nice and comfortable). Some women like deep penetration and others more shallow insertion. Remember that it is your toy girls you are in control and play around with your dildo. Work out what feels nice. Lube yourself up around the genitals and your dildo then rub it against your lips and clitoris teasing yourself and then penetrate it really is a lot of fun.

4. Are We Having Fun Yet?

Do anything you want ladies. Insert the entire dildo or only half of it, put it deeper or shallower, enjoy fast or slow motions (tease yourself when you feel that you are close to climax, stop then count to thirty and begin pleasuring yourself again, let the anticipation build again, stop and repeat this a few times the resulting orgasm will be electric). Enjoy every moment of your play with your sex toy. I like to go deep and hard when I am hot and aroused.

In Conclusion

There is no hard and fast rule about dildo use and the key is to take you time and relax, have fun and listen to what your body is telling you. Remember girls practice makes perfect and the more you use your dildo the more you will understand your body and the greater the delights that will unfold.

Well ladies enjoy the ride but please note after that great orgasm you aren’t finished. Always make sure that you clean you dildo with anti-bacterial soap and water, commercial sex toy cleaner or sterilize it (many dildo are now even dishwasher safe!). Then rinse you dildo and make sure it is properly dried.

Then when your dildo is squeaky clean and dry, store in a dry and at room temperature. Then storing in a soft material in a drawer will be fine. Never use a faulty or damaged dildo because the genital tissue is very fragile and can be easily damaged by faulty dildo. Please girls enjoy your dildo they really are fun.



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